foxfirefey: Fox stealing an egg. (Default)
posted by [personal profile] foxfirefey at 09:46am on 01/01/2011
Oh man, I'm with you there.

One thing you can start to do is think of gearing your present requests towards:

* Charity -- things like Kiva work really well for that, since they'll be giving you funds you can choose to microlend out to, or making donations to certain causes you find important in your name.

* Experiences -- tickets to a certain event, the cost of an airplane ticket to visit someone, a state park license

* Consumables -- a favorite cheese, fancy chocolate, art supplies

* Or even digital things that won't take up physical space -- iTunes gift cards, Netflix subscriptions
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posted by [personal profile] wood_elf at 08:49pm on 01/01/2011
I've never asked my parents (or anyone else wanting to buy me a present) about giving a charitable donation instead: maybe greed on my part, or not being able to think of which charity would make best use of the money. Also don't want others to feel bad about wanting stuff for themselves by being the holier-than-thou charity gifter - or give rise to a 'but I wanted to buy something for you' situation.

Gift giving etiquette is so confusing. Of the above, I'd be tempted to ask for train fare money, but that doesn't really fulfil the definition of 'gift' as something square, wrappable and able to be put under the Christmas tree.
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posted by [personal profile] geeksdoitbetter at 08:44pm on 03/01/2011
or give rise to a 'but I wanted to buy something for you' situation

this is often difficult for me

when folks say that, i try to get them to say why. what is it they need?

do they need *me* to be happy? random stuff doesn't make me happy

or, do they need to see evidence of their love/affection? having a visual reminder, in my space, of their affection can be great. but they only get one - so mebbe a thing that can be customized or added to (candelabra with diff candles each year, picture frame with a new pic commemorating an event)

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