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posted by [personal profile] wood_elf at 08:49pm on 01/01/2011
I've never asked my parents (or anyone else wanting to buy me a present) about giving a charitable donation instead: maybe greed on my part, or not being able to think of which charity would make best use of the money. Also don't want others to feel bad about wanting stuff for themselves by being the holier-than-thou charity gifter - or give rise to a 'but I wanted to buy something for you' situation.

Gift giving etiquette is so confusing. Of the above, I'd be tempted to ask for train fare money, but that doesn't really fulfil the definition of 'gift' as something square, wrappable and able to be put under the Christmas tree.
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posted by [personal profile] geeksdoitbetter at 08:44pm on 03/01/2011
or give rise to a 'but I wanted to buy something for you' situation

this is often difficult for me

when folks say that, i try to get them to say why. what is it they need?

do they need *me* to be happy? random stuff doesn't make me happy

or, do they need to see evidence of their love/affection? having a visual reminder, in my space, of their affection can be great. but they only get one - so mebbe a thing that can be customized or added to (candelabra with diff candles each year, picture frame with a new pic commemorating an event)

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